It’s common to get caught up in the pain in some unmet need and lash out. Finding the pause between stimulus and response is quite the high wire act when we’ve gotten triggered. Of course in the moment, we can grab hold of the breath and the senses, calm ourselves and orient to the present as best we can. This is a ready doorway to NOW especially for those who practice mindfulness.
Richard found he kept getting caught up in the same dynamic of irritable reactivity over and again. Finally ready to embrace an embodiment practice to take responsibility for and tend to his inner state, he asked for suggestions for home practice.
3 – 2 – 1 — time to BLAST OFF.
With a commitment to personal embodiment practice, clients (and practitioners) can shed the gravitational pull of our conditioning and explore the spaciousness of simply BEING.
Adept with the universal process for the integration of universal polarities, Richard and I agreed that it will be a cornerstone of his practice.
His 3 – 2 – 1 plan is:
3. Spend three minutes EVERYDAY reflecting on his upcoming or previous day to identify ANY moments of stress and reactive, triggered responses in place of conscious calm choices.
2. Identify two most charged experiences and associated polarities.
1. Integrate one set of associated polarities using universal process, including other points of view.
As most of Richard’s conditioning involves a cycle of righteousness and blame, it’s going to be most important for him to make sure he considers other points of view to access the freedom from reactivity he’s seeking.
What a blessing it is to be able to give Richard a reliable means to reclaim and restore his own state of being, daily. How do you stress the importance of daily tending to ourselves in this way to your clients?