I started to tell David just how grateful I am. He held up a spoon and said, “hold your gratitude.”
David, in addition to being a wicked funny husband extraordinaire and scholar, he is a Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction instructor. Dude knows how to savor a moment.
Marjorie was clearly distressed as she left my office. This rarely happens, hardly ever. We all know it happens sometimes. It seems to be part of the journey of walking deeply into the hearts and minds of our clients.
“I want to be able to ask for what I want without being SOOOO afraid about being seen as needy or somehow just too much. How do I integrate that?”
Such a good question, isn’t it? One of the things that I JUST LOVE about my clients is their willingness to embrace a practice that lets them FLOW with life. They know that
We all know that value of being able to assume another person’s point of view. But do we REALLY know the cost of NOT being able to assume another’s POV? We are now seeing the cost escalate at our southern borders. We will all suffer for this horror.
Liberation. I’ve long had a fascination with what liberation really is. It’s a word that often gets tossed out as the goal in psychotherapy, yoga, meditation. Liberation. Whatever the reason, we all crave liberation, freedom. We want the freedom to do, be and have. We crave freedom from pain and suffering AND the freedom to express that elaborately unique expression of consciousness that moves through us as us.
We all know the burden of walking around uncomfortable in our own skin: the ruminating thoughts, fears, and doubts weighing so heavy on our shoulders; the words and actions, bubbling out of the turmoil of our subconscious, stilted and unsure; trying to prove something we didn’t need to.
My heart has joined the millions of others who have been swimming through outrage, anguish, fear, and distress as the unfolding humanitarian crisis at our southern borders is becoming crystal clear. We KNOW the damage this is causing and it is heartbreaking.
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A client . . .
Your state of being is at the heart of how you experience yourself in life. It informs your perspective and your choices. It is your responsibility to protect and restore your state. Yet, when your state is jangled by the challenges of life, you get thrown into a variety of very human reactions — anger, sad, frustrated, scared or even wild, over the moon joy. These reactions can be like a filter for a camera lens that distorts the perspective a bit. You cannot get a clear read on a situation through a distorted lens. These distortions color your view and disrupt your state.
Our ability to adopt another person’s point of view (POV) steps us and our clients into accepting other people more completely and ultimately reveals the felt sense knowledge of the koan-like question “who is another human being?” More on that at another time ?
As our clients develop and enhance their ability to assume another’s POV….