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EMBODIMENT: Personal Practice Edition

These past couple weeks have shaped up to be media weeks for me. I had a great conversation with Dr. Carole Myers, the host of Health Connections on WUOT about distorted thinking. I also had the opportunity to enjoy a conversation with host, David Van

The residue of PTSD

One of the most debilitating aspects and consequences of PTSD for some is the development of cognitive distortions that become cognitive habits. One piece of residue can be an ever-present, "Bad sh*t is going to happen. It's just around the corner" worry. This was the

The Subtle Influence of Shoulding

Have you noticed the subtle influence of shoulding in your life? If not, how can you expect clients to get better at recognizing this very natural mental pattern? Maybe it’s something you think a friend should do. Maybe it’s something you think you should do.

Cognitive Distortions: Mind-Reading Edition

Mark was deep in the weeds as he described a situation with a new relationship. His story was peppered with language describing how the other guy felt and what he thought. It took me a minute before asking, Wait, did he TELL you this? Well, no.

Problems and Solutions

Woven throughout the body of Zivorard Slavinski’s work is the influence of Roberto Assagiolo, On a low level of consciousness there are no solutions, and on high levels of consciousness, there are no problems. I’ve been leaning into my contemplation of this principle in the wake

The Role of Insight In Transformation

Insight plays an important role in most psychotherapy. I am pretty solid in my belief that the most useful #Insights are the ones that arise following integration. – Insight does not produce change. Insight follows the neutralization of charged energy. The imposition of insight when there is


When our minds are brimming with worries about this or that, cluttered with the emotional pain that comes from encountering the challenges of life, we are simply less present. Our relationships suffer, our work suffers, our life experience suffers. – In those moments, we are

Using The Threads Of The Suffering Narrative

Suffering is a part of life. It is not the WHOLE of life, but it is a PART of life. It is enormously empowering to learn to navigate suffering with radical acceptance and integration of opposites. This understanding informs the AAIT principle, The integration of

Living In A Bi-Polar World

We live in a bi-polar world. Day is inseparable from night. Night is inseparable from day. Men are inseparable from women. Women are inseparable from men. We cannot have one without the other. – We experience this dynamic of dualism psychologically. We feel this as

REPARENTING with the Golden Shadow

I first came across the idea of reparenting when studying Redecision Therapy. It doesn’t take much to sense the holes left in a child by the wounds of neglect and abuse. The feelings of not quite good enough or able, the underlying feeling that there